Personal Ethos and Values

A great ex-colleague of mine @solarkennedy once gave a talk about engineering leadership and challenged the room, a group of tech leads, to someday think hard and write down what their core values are. I've been thinking about this on and off for a while, and I believe I'm ready to start writing some things down.

Engineering

Life

Love

Probably a lot of things to say on the topic but I've come to disagree with the standard European Romantic approach. Here's a poem (by Kahlil Gibran) which reflects my updated view:

Let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you
[...]
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
[...]
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow

For that reason I find the term of "partner" quite fitting to the idea of a long-lasting relationship.