Personal Ethos and Values

A great ex-colleague of mine @solarkennedy once gave a talk about engineering leadership and challenged the room, a group of tech leads, to someday think hard and write down what their core values are. I’ve been thinking about this on and off for a while, and I believe I’m ready to start writing some things down.




Probably a lot of things to say on the topic but I’ve come to disagree with the standard European Romantic approach. Here’s a poem (by Kahlil Gibran) which reflects my updated view:

Let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow

For that reason I find the term of “partner” quite fitting to the idea of a long-lasting relationship.